Ten Best Things About Living in England

May 25th, 2011 § 12 comments § permalink

These Brentwood Streets

These Brentwood Streets

These Brentwood Streets

As I come to the end of my stay in England, I made a list of the ten things I love about my life here.

The Dawn Chorus

The morning medley that starts around 4.30 AM every morning without fail and continues till 9.00 AM. With every passing minute, more birds join in and it sounds a riot! I will certainly miss the song birds in Chennai, where the traffic and the pollution have driven out the little birdies.

The Weather

English weather gets pretty poor press and not without reason. But I like it for its unpredictability. It will start out sunny but the afternoon might bring thundershowers or even hail, if you are particularly unlucky! Dressing in layers and never going out with an umbrella become second nature pretty quickly. I love to breathe in the air when it carries a nip in it – smells so much cleaner and fresher.

The Greenery

There’s a massive country park near my house and the roads are carved without disturbing the trees. Driving through those tree-laden roads that go winding down gives you such a heady rush, I tell you! There’s something about looking up at the leafy canopy that brings pure joy in your heart.

The View from my Kitchen Window

As soon as spring hits, the barren trees start sprouting and suddenly around Easter, they are covered in green leaves. It completely alters the visuals and the number of birds that come and enjoy it dramatically increase. Such a thrill to look at whilst cooking or washing up.

The Small Town Aspect

This is one of the best reasons of living here – close enough to the city that you can go for a night out but still, with its unique mix of country that you don’t feel lost in it. Something that is appealing to more and more people that population is exploding, unfortunately :(

The Wide Open Spaces

There’s something about Britain and its love of wide open spaces. You might be in the middle of a great city like London  but you don’t have to go far to get to some green, a water feature, some ducks and a calming spot to unwind with your lunch. As I lived out of the city, I had my pick of country parks to choose from and boy, will they be sorely missed!

Mine Own Life

I am a bit of a loner and having no one to question me and my actions was the best part of living here. Sundays meant lazing in bed until whenever, without a milkman or a courier guy to rouse me out of bed.

The People

I know many people find the English quite cold – I did too, when I came here 10 years back – but over the years, their reticence has grown on me. In their “I shall mind my business and leave you to mind yours”, I found comfort. In their “let’s rally around now that the time calls for it”, I found solace.

The History

This is true of the whole country as such, not just Brentwood. I love English history and have loved visiting places that made the history come alive for me. When I visited the Hampton Court Palace, I could imagine Henry VIII walking the corridors. At Hever Castle, I could imagine a young Anne Boleyn wandering around the gardens. In Lake District, as I saw the cheerful daffodils dancing in the breeze, I could see Wordsworth drawing inspiration from them. I could feel everything in me stand still as I stood at the Glenfinnan Viaduct, as a lonely steam train whistled its way past. The rolling hills, the hedges, the age old forests… there’s things about this country that has me in its thrall.

The Way of Life

I love the importance given to your life – it isn’t all work,work, work. Weekends are yours to do as you see fit and despite the fact that most weekends would see us do the mundane, I liked how we could hangout as a family the whole weekend, instead of losing the time on useless things. Spring meant picking our own berries at the local farm, summer meant days at the park, the race for life, the various events at the country parks, a short break or two, autumn meant new school year and all that it brings, winter meant christmas, school concert, the new year, snow…..

What’s life sans drama?

May 23rd, 2011 § 4 comments § permalink

Well, something utterly boring, is what it is. Anyways, just to spice things along, I waved my magic wand and set one of the Icelandic volcanoes to spew and spit. So now, I have to wait with the proverbial bated breath to see if my flight will take off come D-Day. Will I? Won’t I? Ooh the tension is palpable, is it not?

No seriously, cut it out. My ‘Chennai To Do List’ is already having kittens so I have no time to dick around with. I need to get on that flight – ON TIME, visit with the mad person, get on my connecting flight – again, ON TIME – and land up at the hometown by Cinderella hour. The next day will mean scheduling entrance tests for the boy, catching up on sleep, making other vital phone calls and trying not to get fried in the summer sun.

So, ash and other crazy substances, away with you! Chop, chop!

Counting down now!

May 19th, 2011 § 8 comments § permalink

Apologies, loyal few. A nasty bug laid me low with a vicious combo of fever-chills-sore throat-massive fatigue and even after days, I am still not up to speed. What rotten timing! I had wanted to be rid of my packing woes by now. Oh well.
I have 9 days left before I leave for India. For good, one hopes, if not, at least for a couple of years for sure. We have a couple of backup plans, just in case, but we’ll see how everything pans out.
My daughter is clueless about the changes that await her. My son is extremely aware that after this weekend, he might not see this set of friends, his first friends since babyhood, ever again. Understandably, he is feeling rather bereft. But I hope his warm heart and generous spirit win him new friends in Chennai double quick.

Vampire Diaries: GASP! NOOOO! NAHIIIN!!!

May 10th, 2011 § 7 comments § permalink

SPOILERS ABOUND! Do not read if you haven’t watched the latest episode

Main Cast of Vampire Diaries

Main Cast of Vampire Diaries

Just saw the latest episode (Season 2, Episode 21) of Vampire Diaries and Oh.My.God! I think I can safely say they blew me away! Totally! Whilst poor Jenna has always been in the periphery of action, I never thought they’d off her as she had a nice romance with Rick going. When the evil witch said ‘she’s in transition’ at the end of Episode 20, I knew poor Jenna’s a goner. She was such a sweet thing, totally under utilized, much like a Indian movie heroine, poor thing. Didn’t Rick look deliciously heart-broken? But where’s the rage, buddy?

And I do not believe that they’ll let Damon go the way of Rose – he is scary already when he is drunk; imagine him at the heights of wolf-bite induced madness! Or maybe they’ll make Elena kill Damon? Whichever way they go, they’ll have him come back for at least the first episode of the new season. And if the new season is going to be all about The Originals, I have a feeling they’d need a full contingent of Salvatores to try and play against.

Did I think Elijah will renege on his promise to Stefan? Hell yeah! There was no way that the Klaus character was going to be offed after they spent most of the season building him up. Plus, if season 3 is going to be about their family, it makes sense to have more than just Elijah rattling about.

Wasn’t sad to see Matt break up with Caroline. He had been wimpy and getting on my nerves. Caroline and Tyler should get together and make some hybrid babies to take on Klaus. Now that’ll make for an interesting Season 4!

But I have to commend the pace of the episode, the grippy action. I cannot wait for the finale next week! I hope some channel in Tata Sky telecasts the show or I’ll be sore to miss the action!

How do you feel about endings?

May 9th, 2011 § 5 comments § permalink

Hate them.

They make me feel unlike me. All teary and churned up. Full of what if’s. Looking back, working out the different ways I could have done things. Berating myself for not having the clarity of thought in the first instance.

There’s a sense of inevitability with endings, a sense of finality, a “this is it” quality that is so unforgiving and cruel. It is like you have exhausted all your chances and there’s nothing more that can be done. So long and thanks for all the fish, and all that.

I feel like saying “Well bully to you!” but the curious aspect of endings is that you can’t really do that, it is like a force bigger than you is saying “nyah nyah nyah” to you.

Endings. Hate them.

The Saturday That Was

May 8th, 2011 § 6 comments § permalink

One of the rides

 

One of the rides

One of the rides

Apparently, NaBloPoMo works on weekdays only. There was no prompt for yesterday and likewise, today. As I was out making merry yesterday, I shall write about it today and call it a job well done. OK?

 
We took the children to Legoland, an amusement park near Windsor. I like Windsor much better than Legoland but as I am pretty sure my two would rather wander around the latter instead of traipsing around Windsor Castle, looking for Henry VIII’s august tomb, we headed where we did. It was a super tiring day and luckily, as it had rained buckets earlier, it wasn’t the “scorcheroo” (as Pratik’s friend’s mum foretold) I was worried about.
As decided earlier, I went with Pratik on his “must be accompanied by an adult” rides while the spouse looked after The Mint. Who, typically, protested vociferously on being left out of the fun.

The first ride was something Viking Whatzit. We sat with another family of 4 in this round floaty thing and were set afloat on a frothing course. Water was chucked on us from top, squirted from the sides and on two occasions, we had to float through water curtains. Needless to say, by the time the ride came to an end, I was giving drowned rats a run for their money. Spouse took one look at us and instead of springing for the drying tube, said we could walk it off!

Typically, by the time I dried out, it was time for another water ride and time to undo all the good work.

Anyways, this pattern continued, alternated with kiddie rides for the child, till a strident voice announced on the PA system “the park is now closed! the PARK is now CLOSED” and we hoofed it out of there.

The children were so pooped they fell asleep the minute we hit the motorway. So we scorched our plans of heading into Wembley and finding us a nice North Indian restaurant.

In cliched fashion, much fun was had by all.

We shall rest our weary bones today. Though I’m sure my daughter has ideas – I spy with my right eye her getting decked out in her “outside shoes”. sigh.

Do you like beginnings?

May 6th, 2011 § 6 comments § permalink

The short answer is, yes, very much. They are full of promise, of wonder, of discovery. There’s something about them that brings out the inner child in me. I cannot wait to get stuck in, to find out what this will lead to, to what lies in store for me.

It is the endings I can’t bear.

What is the hardest decision you ever had to make?

May 6th, 2011 § 8 comments § permalink

When you are a parent, no decision is easy, in my opinion. Even if you know something is good for your child, you are still wrecked with guilt. Well, at least I am. I never stop second / third / fourth guessing myself and generally go nuts.

Take our R2I (return to India) plans, for example. They have been in the pipeline for years now and we have argued the pros and cons of it from every angle possible. Is this the right thing? For us and the children? Will they be alright? Will our quality of life be affected? This is for the best, right? On and on, back and forth went our questions.

Finally, four years after we initially planned to return and after having watched many make the same trek home and claim happiness, we took the plunge. Date was marked, tickets booked and the plans were set in motion. This is it!

Then it was time to finally break it to the school. I had delayed this till the last possible minute, because once it was done, that was it, no going back. After a very pleasant 15-mins chat with the Head teacher, she stunned me with this question: Have you chosen a school for P already? Will the school you have in mind for him nurture his gentle spirit and help him grow? With a few simple words, the diminutive lady stopped me in my tracks – nurture his spirit? When he will be 1 out of a possible 400 in his year alone? How?

The next day, we met with his class teacher, at the usual parent-teacher meet. She sang his praises, ribbed him about his ‘sillies’ during swimming period earlier that week and then turned to us, with tears in her eyes, stated she was ‘going to miss having Pratik in her class’.

I had a lump the size of a goose egg in my throat at that. I was asking my husband if we were doing the right thing, taking him away from an environment that so clearly cherishes him. Will his new teacher even learn his particular quirks? Will she find his ‘sillies’ as funny? Will she talk of him fondly in the future?

Sticking to our decision to move to India on schedule after that day, was quite simply, the hardest decision I ever had to make.

This parenting lark isn’t easy.

 

Your Attention Please!

May 4th, 2011 § 7 comments § permalink

Tarn Hows, near Coniston

 

Tarn Hows, near Coniston

Wonder what he is thinking about?

 

As my blogging has got erratic and in an attempt to breathe some new life into it, I have decided to join the NaBloPoMo or National Blog Posting Month for May. Many bloggers have already committed to this – chief among them is Monika Manchanda, fresh from the success of CSAAM ’11.

I am reliably informed that the theme for this month is ‘MAYBE’. Maybe I’ll stick to it, maybe not. Heh. But the prompts do help when you are stuck so let me see how I fare.

MAYBE…

That’s kind of providential now, the topic of Maybe. Maybe indicates a possibility, an uncertainty. Which is where I am at, now. On the brink of a major change in my life. I am talking about my impending move back to desi shores. A decade in England – I arrived as a rather naive, wet behind the years 22-year-old. After 10 years of learning, of a variety of experiences, of visiting new places, meeting new people, I am quite changed as a person. Still naive but not as much, one hopes!

More than me, I am worried about what this means to my children. What this will entail. Will it be for the better? Will it broaden their horizons, teach them more about the ‘brown’ aspect of their being? Will it make them a little bit more comfortable in themselves?

Maybe.

Or will the difference be too much? Especially for my son, who is quite set in his ways compared to his sister, will it mean heart-ache? Insecurity? Will it make him doubt everything he knows, all that he’s been taught till now? Will it change him from the bright, cheery child he is?

Time will tell.

 

5 ways you can enjoy eggs

May 3rd, 2011 § 0 comments § permalink

Edd Curry
Edd Curry

Egg Curry

I am sure I am showing my age but does anyone remember the old ad that promoted eating eggs? The jingle went something like this:

“Meri jaan, meri jaan, murgi ke ande!(x 2)
Omelette khilaoon, fried khilaoon, boiled khilaoon!
Khilaoon murgi ke, murgi ke, ande hi ande!
Sunday ho ya Monday, roj khaayein ande!!”

Happy, catchy and set to the tune of an old Hindi number, this ad was played often on the telly and I remember it perfectly till date, even thought it might have been 20 years since I last saw it. Whenever I make eggs for my children, this is the ad that runs through my mind!

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