Comments on: Repressed Sex http://www.lavanyad.com/home/repressed-sex/ Everything balances out in the end Tue, 07 Feb 2012 03:46:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Inba http://www.lavanyad.com/home/repressed-sex/#comment-635 Inba Fri, 18 Jan 2008 15:08:14 +0000 http://desigirl.net.in/blog/2008/01/09/repressed-sex/#comment-635 Ethi Eve (Lit) <em> OMG! Me too!!! I was there between 95 - 98! Small world!! </em> Ethi Eve (Lit)


OMG! Me too!!! I was there between 95 – 98! Small world!!

]]> By: Inba http://www.lavanyad.com/home/repressed-sex/#comment-638 Inba Wed, 16 Jan 2008 17:51:22 +0000 http://desigirl.net.in/blog/2008/01/09/repressed-sex/#comment-638 As a teenager, I felt helpless against these boors. Now, as the mother of a soon-to-be-teenage girl, I feel just as helpless. I guess some caution and self-defense are the best means of keeping these b*****s off. Yes, it is the family that can put some sense into the boy's head. Btw, DG, you Ethi? Me too :) <em> Me: Yayy, Ethi! Day or Eve? Just read your blog - speaks to me a lot!! Will share a story with you about one of your posts one of these days. In the meantime, thanks for dropping in. I can imagine you worrying your head over your daughter - I am worried about my son. I guess these days, the son / daughter line has blurred and we, as parents, worry period. sigh. Wonder why those that begat the monsters that pray on us missed that vital bit of parenting. </em> As a teenager, I felt helpless against these boors. Now, as the mother of a soon-to-be-teenage girl, I feel just as helpless. I guess some caution and self-defense are the best means of keeping these b*****s off. Yes, it is the family that can put some sense into the boy’s head.

Btw, DG, you Ethi? Me too :)


Me: Yayy, Ethi! Day or Eve? Just read your blog – speaks to me a lot!! Will share a story with you about one of your posts one of these days. In the meantime, thanks for dropping in.

I can imagine you worrying your head over your daughter – I am worried about my son. I guess these days, the son / daughter line has blurred and we, as parents, worry period. sigh. Wonder why those that begat the monsters that pray on us missed that vital bit of parenting.

]]> By: sk http://www.lavanyad.com/home/repressed-sex/#comment-636 sk Wed, 16 Jan 2008 05:35:58 +0000 http://desigirl.net.in/blog/2008/01/09/repressed-sex/#comment-636 Sorry to go off on a tangent, but I cant believe I found an ethirajian on a random blog surf!!! I have been reading your blog on and off, but this post just made me comment! I too remember the horrid bus rides to ethi! Thank god for the ladies sp. busses though. Even if you had to fight to get in and save seats by throwing your handkerchiefs in through the windows! <em> Me: <i>Another</i> Ethi girl? Boy this is much more effective than the gazillion Alumni.net, Orkut and Facebook groups eh what? Ahhh your seat grabbing techniques take me back - I always used to chuck my Allied text - it was bulky and no one would want it. Hankies always got nicked but who would want to lay claim to a History of English Literature text? </em> Sorry to go off on a tangent, but I cant believe I found an ethirajian on a random blog surf!!! I have been reading your blog on and off, but this post just made me comment!
I too remember the horrid bus rides to ethi! Thank god for the ladies sp. busses though. Even if you had to fight to get in and save seats by throwing your handkerchiefs in through the windows!


Me: Another Ethi girl? Boy this is much more effective than the gazillion Alumni.net, Orkut and Facebook groups eh what? Ahhh your seat grabbing techniques take me back – I always used to chuck my Allied text – it was bulky and no one would want it. Hankies always got nicked but who would want to lay claim to a History of English Literature text?

]]> By: Amrita http://www.lavanyad.com/home/repressed-sex/#comment-633 Amrita Mon, 14 Jan 2008 04:08:32 +0000 http://desigirl.net.in/blog/2008/01/09/repressed-sex/#comment-633 You know, DG, I've never met an Indian woman who HASNT been harassed. Not one. Including my mom and aunts. And what I want to know is, what sort of families do these men come from? Who is it that tells them it's ok to behave like this? Is it the movies where the hero keeps bugging the heroine until she falls for him (yeah right)? The govt is only one aspect, I think the home is much more important. <em> Me: Ams, of course families play a massive role in shaping a person. I think our blind attitude towards boys and their belligerent attitude, explaining things away with the standard "oh boys will be boys" and looking at minor rowdy acts as sowing wild seeds are all to blame. But my question is: how are we to stop the idiots on the streets who seem to think women are fair game? </em> You know, DG, I’ve never met an Indian woman who HASNT been harassed. Not one. Including my mom and aunts. And what I want to know is, what sort of families do these men come from? Who is it that tells them it’s ok to behave like this? Is it the movies where the hero keeps bugging the heroine until she falls for him (yeah right)? The govt is only one aspect, I think the home is much more important.


Me: Ams, of course families play a massive role in shaping a person. I think our blind attitude towards boys and their belligerent attitude, explaining things away with the standard “oh boys will be boys” and looking at minor rowdy acts as sowing wild seeds are all to blame. But my question is: how are we to stop the idiots on the streets who seem to think women are fair game?

]]> By: Lavs http://www.lavanyad.com/home/repressed-sex/#comment-632 Lavs Sun, 13 Jan 2008 06:11:19 +0000 http://desigirl.net.in/blog/2008/01/09/repressed-sex/#comment-632 I have one vivid experience to recall- I was in my 12th std attending numerous tuition classes for the board exam. One particular class was farther away and I used to travel by bus. One particular evening, the bus did not come for a long time and the one which came finally was too crowded for words. I was not comfortable standing alone in the bus stand hence decided to brave the crowd. The moment I boarded, a man behind me started feeling me all over as if he has never seen a woman in his life. There was no space for me to even turn around and punch this fellow. In spite of my repeated shouts, none from the bus bothered to stop the man. That’s when I decided to take matters into my own hands and gave the a**hole one hard punch (backward leg punch) with my sandals. I was lucky to wear a small heels shoe which broke at the force with which I hit that fellow. The next stop I got down, found a cobbler and walked back home to release my pent up anger. Such people need to be taught a lesson. And yes, as long as such animals exist, our freedom exists only on paper. <em> Me: Agree with you there, Lavs, that these idiots need to be taught a few lessons. And it was mighty brave of you to retaliate. I don't think I would've! I am always worried that if I stand up to one today, he might come back with a few hundred goony mates tomorrow! </em> I have one vivid experience to recall- I was in my 12th std attending numerous tuition classes for the board exam. One particular class was farther away and I used to travel by bus. One particular evening, the bus did not come for a long time and the one which came finally was too crowded for words. I was not comfortable standing alone in the bus stand hence decided to brave the crowd. The moment I boarded, a man behind me started feeling me all over as if he has never seen a woman in his life. There was no space for me to even turn around and punch this fellow. In spite of my repeated shouts, none from the bus bothered to stop the man. That’s when I decided to take matters into my own hands and gave the a**hole one hard punch (backward leg punch) with my sandals. I was lucky to wear a small heels shoe which broke at the force with which I hit that fellow. The next stop I got down, found a cobbler and walked back home to release my pent up anger.

Such people need to be taught a lesson. And yes, as long as such animals exist, our freedom exists only on paper.


Me: Agree with you there, Lavs, that these idiots need to be taught a few lessons. And it was mighty brave of you to retaliate. I don’t think I would’ve! I am always worried that if I stand up to one today, he might come back with a few hundred goony mates tomorrow!

]]> By: interesting http://www.lavanyad.com/home/repressed-sex/#comment-637 interesting Sat, 12 Jan 2008 10:52:43 +0000 http://desigirl.net.in/blog/2008/01/09/repressed-sex/#comment-637 lol....ain't nothing 2 giggle abt...but the sheer frankness coupled with some bold blasting prompted the simper..... 1stly appreciate the way you have made your point....splendid... guess not much one can do. illiteracy, i feel is the main cause if not the root. but to an extent can be avoided by being a little conscious of the surroundings and staying alert... <em> Me: I think all Indian women - well a majority - are instinctively conscious of where they are and on a permanent state of alert lest a moron decides to push his luck. Like Amrita says, nurture plays a big role. My question is, how to curb the current level of menace? </em> lol….ain’t nothing 2 giggle abt…but the sheer frankness coupled with some bold blasting prompted the simper…..
1stly appreciate the way you have made your point….splendid…
guess not much one can do. illiteracy, i feel is the main cause if not the root.
but to an extent can be avoided by being a little conscious of the surroundings and staying alert…


Me: I think all Indian women – well a majority – are instinctively conscious of where they are and on a permanent state of alert lest a moron decides to push his luck. Like Amrita says, nurture plays a big role. My question is, how to curb the current level of menace?

]]> By: Puja http://www.lavanyad.com/home/repressed-sex/#comment-634 Puja Thu, 10 Jan 2008 11:22:39 +0000 http://desigirl.net.in/blog/2008/01/09/repressed-sex/#comment-634 Like any other girl in this country (or perhaps all over the world), I have tried to analyze this perverted tendency in men, and I fail to reach any logical reasoning. I do not understand how brushing against a girl can give them an "ego-boost" or any form of satisfaction. Whistling or passing lewd comments too are beyond my understanding. Perhaps they have the same effect as using abusive language against someone. It gives a momentary satisfaction of having vented out your frustration. I am ignorant of the "pleasure" one derives from eve-teasing. Is there a hidden rapist in every eve-teaser or is it just a "harmless" fun-activity? I can never tell. But all I know and wish to convey to men all over is that no woman can ever enjoy it, if that is what they feel (thanks to some bollywood movies, where teasing is a first step towards love-affair). We deserve to breathe the air without being afraid of who we are sharing it with. We should be able to walk on the roads without being conscious about men staring at us. And we should be able to get rid of the thought process that women "invite" such kind of behavior from men. <em> Me: Puja, we can talk and reiterate all we want. Who's listening?! </em> Like any other girl in this country (or perhaps all over the world), I have tried to analyze this perverted tendency in men, and I fail to reach any logical reasoning. I do not understand how brushing against a girl can give them an “ego-boost” or any form of satisfaction. Whistling or passing lewd comments too are beyond my understanding. Perhaps they have the same effect as using abusive language against someone. It gives a momentary satisfaction of having vented out your frustration. I am ignorant of the “pleasure” one derives from eve-teasing. Is there a hidden rapist in every eve-teaser or is it just a “harmless” fun-activity? I can never tell. But all I know and wish to convey to men all over is that no woman can ever enjoy it, if that is what they feel (thanks to some bollywood movies, where teasing is a first step towards love-affair). We deserve to breathe the air without being afraid of who we are sharing it with. We should be able to walk on the roads without being conscious about men staring at us. And we should be able to get rid of the thought process that women “invite” such kind of behavior from men.


Me: Puja, we can talk and reiterate all we want. Who’s listening?!

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