Comments on: When No means NO! http://www.lavanyad.com/home/when-no-means-no/ Everything balances out in the end Tue, 07 Feb 2012 03:46:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Gayathri http://www.lavanyad.com/home/when-no-means-no/#comment-593 Gayathri Wed, 22 Apr 2009 00:27:58 +0000 http://desigirl.net.in/blog/2007/12/12/when-no-means-no/#comment-593 My parents just got done watching this movie and told me about it. They had no clue it would be so disturbing. I am really not much into Tamil movies as I was raised in the North, but to see such an amazing level of misogyny and homophobia is sickening. What is even more bothersom is that apparently this movie was a blockbuster that ended up winning numerous awards. Surprisingly, a google search for some critical analysis of this movie/scene only yielded your blog. Its sad that nobody in the mainstream media in India picked this up and tore the movie apart to pieces for glamorizing honor rape. My parents just got done watching this movie and told me about it. They had no clue it would be so disturbing. I am really not much into Tamil movies as I was raised in the North, but to see such an amazing level of misogyny and homophobia is sickening. What is even more bothersom is that apparently this movie was a blockbuster that ended up winning numerous awards. Surprisingly, a google search for some critical analysis of this movie/scene only yielded your blog. Its sad that nobody in the mainstream media in India picked this up and tore the movie apart to pieces for glamorizing honor rape.

]]> By: Alas, a blog » Blog Archive » Proving Manhood http://www.lavanyad.com/home/when-no-means-no/#comment-585 Alas, a blog » Blog Archive » Proving Manhood Sat, 15 Dec 2007 06:19:55 +0000 http://desigirl.net.in/blog/2007/12/12/when-no-means-no/#comment-585 [...] Posted by Jack Stephens | December 13th, 2007 | Crossposted from The Blog and the Bullet DesiGirl blogs about the movie Varalalu in where the main actor Ajith “proves his manhood” by raping a woman: The [...] [...] Posted by Jack Stephens | December 13th, 2007 | Crossposted from The Blog and the Bullet DesiGirl blogs about the movie Varalalu in where the main actor Ajith “proves his manhood” by raping a woman: The [...]

]]> By: Vidya http://www.lavanyad.com/home/when-no-means-no/#comment-586 Vidya Fri, 14 Dec 2007 13:17:38 +0000 http://desigirl.net.in/blog/2007/12/12/when-no-means-no/#comment-586 Nice post. What annoys me is this.. When one points out such things out in Tamil / Indian movies all I hear in response is "Oh you take these things way too seriously". We become the ones who overreact!! <em> Thanks, Vidya! I know - that sort of comment gets to me too! The whole 'we are like this only' attitude pisses me off, big time! Is clamouring for sensitivity and expecting quality overreacting? I don't think so! We should keep at it till the others give in! </em> Nice post. What annoys me is this.. When one points out such things out in Tamil / Indian movies all I hear in response is “Oh you take these things way too seriously”. We become the ones who overreact!!


Thanks, Vidya! I know – that sort of comment gets to me too! The whole ‘we are like this only’ attitude pisses me off, big time! Is clamouring for sensitivity and expecting quality overreacting? I don’t think so!
We should keep at it till the others give in!

]]> By: Anindita http://www.lavanyad.com/home/when-no-means-no/#comment-588 Anindita Fri, 14 Dec 2007 09:40:19 +0000 http://desigirl.net.in/blog/2007/12/12/when-no-means-no/#comment-588 Oh dear god. I'm gobsmacked. And this he got a filmfare award for this? What is more disturbing is this was a hit, what does it say about the attitude of the average person in the audience? <em> DG: Yep! He sure did! Best Male Actor Filmfare Award. I was stunned to hear comments like 'ooh, he has done the part of a Bharatnatyam dancer and the mannerisms soooo well!' from folks who watched the movie. Well, what about the rest of it? The message that is sent across? As if the thug types need ammo like this to justify their nefarious activities! </em> Oh dear god. I’m gobsmacked. And this he got a filmfare award for this? What is more disturbing is this was a hit, what does it say about the attitude of the average person in the audience?


DG: Yep! He sure did! Best Male Actor Filmfare Award. I was stunned to hear comments like ‘ooh, he has done the part of a Bharatnatyam dancer and the mannerisms soooo well!’ from folks who watched the movie. Well, what about the rest of it? The message that is sent across? As if the thug types need ammo like this to justify their nefarious activities!

]]> By: April http://www.lavanyad.com/home/when-no-means-no/#comment-587 April Fri, 14 Dec 2007 07:18:52 +0000 http://desigirl.net.in/blog/2007/12/12/when-no-means-no/#comment-587 The good ol' normalization of a patriarchal violent and oppressive system through film. Now THAT'S the way to brainwash people. The good ol’ normalization of a patriarchal violent and oppressive system through film. Now THAT’S the way to brainwash people.

]]> By: No means no at Blogbharti http://www.lavanyad.com/home/when-no-means-no/#comment-584 No means no at Blogbharti Fri, 14 Dec 2007 07:18:10 +0000 http://desigirl.net.in/blog/2007/12/12/when-no-means-no/#comment-584 [...] is incensed by the message about rape given by the Tamil film Varalaru.  The cherry on top of this sick icing [...] [...] is incensed by the message about rape given by the Tamil film Varalaru.  The cherry on top of this sick icing [...]

]]> By: Proving Manhood « The Mustard Seed http://www.lavanyad.com/home/when-no-means-no/#comment-583 Proving Manhood « The Mustard Seed Fri, 14 Dec 2007 00:01:27 +0000 http://desigirl.net.in/blog/2007/12/12/when-no-means-no/#comment-583 [...] DesiGirl blogs about the movie Varalalu in where the main actor Ajith “proves his manhood” by raping a woman: The cherry on top of this sick icing happens a few scenes later, when the girl’s mum pleads his case to her now pregnant daughter, with the standard “He is a good man, sweetheart” line. Of course he is, if you discount the fact the raped you to prove his manhood. He is so the man!It is movies like this that make me want to gag. Here we have organisations trying to fight crimes against women and then we have movies like this tosh, that make a whole mahatma out of the sod who commits this heinous crime. Even more gaggable fact is that, the adoring public turned up in droves to see this load of crap, shelling out their hard earned money hand over fist to make it a hit. A hit! This &%$#* of a film! [...] [...] DesiGirl blogs about the movie Varalalu in where the main actor Ajith “proves his manhood” by raping a woman: The cherry on top of this sick icing happens a few scenes later, when the girl’s mum pleads his case to her now pregnant daughter, with the standard “He is a good man, sweetheart” line. Of course he is, if you discount the fact the raped you to prove his manhood. He is so the man!It is movies like this that make me want to gag. Here we have organisations trying to fight crimes against women and then we have movies like this tosh, that make a whole mahatma out of the sod who commits this heinous crime. Even more gaggable fact is that, the adoring public turned up in droves to see this load of crap, shelling out their hard earned money hand over fist to make it a hit. A hit! This &%$#* of a film! [...]

]]> By: Proving Manhood « The Blog and the Bullet http://www.lavanyad.com/home/when-no-means-no/#comment-582 Proving Manhood « The Blog and the Bullet Thu, 13 Dec 2007 23:58:34 +0000 http://desigirl.net.in/blog/2007/12/12/when-no-means-no/#comment-582 [...] by Jack Stephens on December 13, 2007 DesiGirl blogs about the movie Varalalu in where the main actor Ajith “proves his manhood” by raping a woman: The [...] [...] by Jack Stephens on December 13, 2007 DesiGirl blogs about the movie Varalalu in where the main actor Ajith “proves his manhood” by raping a woman: The [...]

]]> By: Amrita http://www.lavanyad.com/home/when-no-means-no/#comment-589 Amrita Wed, 12 Dec 2007 14:09:39 +0000 http://desigirl.net.in/blog/2007/12/12/when-no-means-no/#comment-589 DG, you're kidding me! Wow. Just.... wow. PS - whaddya mean tag bug? I never didnt! And talking of "sooperstars", I have a post coming up on Sivaji Ganesan. Good things I hope :) <em> Me: yep! scout's honour! the bloke actually won Best Male for this. I tell u, no justice in the world, i know but no sense too, apparently. BTw,he's doing SRK's role in the Tamil DON, Billa. Orey cool shades, and sexy suits! Whatever did Sivaji do to u btw? or is it something to do with the military hotel link? ;) 'course u got the tag bug, dearie - i have left messages on all my tagees that any brickbats re this tag shld be aimed in ur direction. hyuk hyuk! </em> DG, you’re kidding me! Wow. Just…. wow.

PS – whaddya mean tag bug? I never didnt! And talking of “sooperstars”, I have a post coming up on Sivaji Ganesan. Good things I hope :)


Me: yep! scout’s honour! the bloke actually won Best Male for this. I tell u, no justice in the world, i know but no sense too, apparently. BTw,he’s doing SRK’s role in the Tamil DON, Billa. Orey cool shades, and sexy suits!

Whatever did Sivaji do to u btw? or is it something to do with the military hotel link? ;)

‘course u got the tag bug, dearie – i have left messages on all my tagees that any brickbats re this tag shld be aimed in ur direction. hyuk hyuk!

]]> By: desigirl http://www.lavanyad.com/home/when-no-means-no/#comment-591 desigirl Wed, 12 Dec 2007 08:52:53 +0000 http://desigirl.net.in/blog/2007/12/12/when-no-means-no/#comment-591 Ams, Will you heart sink further if I tell you the man actually won the Best Actor Filmfare award for this movie?? hmm tag - how did I guess? Oh yeah, when I read your follow up to J's! Has she got your tag bug too?? :D Apu, You place too much faith in the system, girlie. He is the 'soooperstar' now. Why the hell would trivial banalities like this matter? Am sure his fan club would be erecting temples in his honour now!! Ams,
Will you heart sink further if I tell you the man actually won the Best Actor Filmfare award for this movie?? hmm tag – how did I guess? Oh yeah, when I read your follow up to J’s! Has she got your tag bug too?? :D

Apu,
You place too much faith in the system, girlie. He is the ‘soooperstar’ now. Why the hell would trivial banalities like this matter? Am sure his fan club would be erecting temples in his honour now!!

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